Saturday, January 31, 2009
Texas Divorce Lawyer Tip: Dividing and Dealing with Joint Checking, Savings and Mutual Fund Accounts.
The only way to ensure that you will have access to funds is to open up your own bank account and start having your paycheck deposited to this account. It is not a bad idea to attempt to get both you and your spouse (by agreement) to open up separate checking / savings account and a separate credit card account. You can even agree (in writing or otherwise) that these accounts are the separate responsibility of the respective spouse. Close the joint account (or keep a nominal amount of money in it) so that there are less assets to ultimately divide by the Court.
If this can be done by agreement, then there will be less of an opportunity for a misunderstanding. If you change where your paycheck gets deposited without informing your spouse, understand that you might be starting a "war." You should be very careful about any actions like this that can backfire. However, if you can do this without inciting additional problems, then this is not a bad idea. In any event, you should at least open up a separate account and ensure that you have enough funds in that account to get by for a couple of months and to obtain an attorney if this becomes necessary. Otherwise, you may not be able to survive without help from family or friends, and you might end up having to sacrifice assets in order to make it for a couple of months. Another alternative is to have your attorney seek the disbursement of funds for living expenses and attorney's fees from other community assets. These types of motions, however, can end up being expensive.
If you expect your spouse to remain civil during the divorce, then this might not be a big deal, but understand that your spouse will have access to each of the joint accounts and during a highly contested divorce, it is not uncommon for one spouse to withdraw money from accounts (for legitimate attorney's fees or for other things) and they can then start hiding the cash. If you have questions about the preparation of specific agreements and other questions about how to deal with joint accounts, you should seek the advice of an experienced divorce attorney.
As long as there is no temporary restraining order or temporary injunction in place, you could potentially take the items and put them into your own safe-deposit box or other safe location so as to limit access by your spouse. If the items are your separate property, (i.e. - the items were purchased prior to marriage, or obtained by gift or inheritance), these actions might not be view by the Judge to be unreasonable. However, if there is a temporary restraining order or a temporary injunction in place (or as we have in Austin / Travis County, Texas a Standing Temporary Order) then you should not and cannot take the items (hide or secrete them) without Court approval. You should keep in mind; however, that if you start taking and hiding assets of the marriage, your spouse might start doing the same and this would not be a good thing.
What if a spouse should die during the pendency of the Divorce, will my spouse get all of my life insurance and retirement benefits?
What happens after we have settled our case (by mediation, negotiation, in a Rule 11 Agreement, or otherwise), but before the divorce is actually finalized?
Do you want your spouse making medical decisions if you should get seriously injured?
Do you want your spouse to have access to all of your assets, bank accounts, safe deposit box, and mutual funds in the event of your incapacity?
You should also be aware that once the Divorce case has been filed, you may not be permitted to change these designations due to a Temporary Restraining Order, Temporary Injunction, Local Rule, or as we have in Austin, Texas, the TRAVIS COUNTY STANDING ORDER REGARDING CHILDREN, PROPERTY AND CONDUCT OF THE PARTIES. As a result, you need to make these considerations prior to the time the Divorce is filed.
This is where divorce law intersects with estate planning and probate law. Anyone who may be planning on a divorce should think about these issues and consult their Divorce Attorney to come up with a plan to ensure that these matters are addressed.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
COBRA coverage can become especially important for spouses with significant pre-existing conditions that might not be covered with a new insurance carrier. As a result, as long as the coverage elections are timely made, the former spouse cannot be required to take a physical exam or otherwise qualify for the continued coverage. The continuation coverage has the potential to last for three (3) years after the Divorce is finalized. After that, the former spouse still may be able to purchase "conversion coverage" under COBRA; however, with the conversion policy, the employer or insurance carrier can charge significantly higher rates.
These rights only apply in situations of qualifying employees (those policies purchased through work or an association) and not with an individual plan, or those that you purchase on your own. Individual plans are generally not subject to the COBRA provisions. As a result, once you lose that coverage, you won't be able to get an extension.
COBRA Insurance coverage generally ends when: (1) the last date of maximum coverage endes; (2) premiums are not paid on a timely basis; (3) the employer ceases to maintain any group health plan, (4) you obtain coverage through another employer group health plan that does not have any exclusions or limitations with respect to a pre-existing condition of a beneficiary; (5) you move outside the health plan coverage area; and, (5) a beneficiary is entitled to Medicare benefits.
2) Do not involve your children in legal discussions. The financial and legal details of the divorce will only serve to upset and distress your children. Children should not be permitted to (over) hear your arguments and discussions about legal, financial, or emotional issues relating to the divorce. Children should not be informed about what is going on in court and generally should not be asked to make a decision to choose one parent over the other. Your children should not be encouraged to shuttle messages back and forth between their parents; instead, you should communicate directly, politely, and calmly with the other parent about any parenting issues (even if your spouse is rude or unresponsive with you). Never bring your children to Court without prior Court approval.
3) Do not dump your emotional baggage on your children. If you are angry with your spouse, have resentment toward your spouse, or are saddened by his or her actions, you should not discuss these extreme emotions with your children. Your child is not your friend, buddy, and certainly not your counselor or therapist. You are the parent and your children expect you to be in control at all times. If you are out of control, you cannot parent the way you should. Your children need you to be engaged most of all during this emotionally difficult time. If you need to discuss your feelings, hire a counselor or speak with a close friend or adult relative.
4) Reassure your children that both parents love them; tell them directly that the divorce is not their fault and that everything will be okay. In most cases, you should attempt to come up with a game plan (or "parenting plan") so that both parents can be actively involved in your children’s activities. Also, there are “parenting coordination classes” such as “Putting Kids First,” that can be taken to help you work with the other parent for the betterment of the children. Discuss any potential plans or agreements with your respective attorneys, and seek their input, but do not sign anything without talking to your lawyer first.
5) Try to maintain the status quo during the divorce as much as possible. The children have grown to expect such routines from you, and you will cause unnecessary stress if you decide to change all things that are familiar to them. If the divorce does not require moving them out of their house, changing schools, or moving to another city, it is not a good time to make these or other changes. If your children have friends they like to play with, family members that they want to see, or adults involved in their lives (that you approved of prior to the divorce), do not cut off those relationships simply because they may be "more friendly" with (or related to) your spouse. Your children should be encouraged to contact these people by telephone or email if they cannot visit in person. You must be the bigger person about these matters. Take the high road, rather than the low one that is so often traveled.
6) Never ever, ever introduce a new "significant other" into your children's lives during or even shortly after the divorce. This will confuse them, upset them, and will make them very angry and resentful. Take this time to concentrate on the children and building your relationship with them, rather than a new love interest.
7) Children should not be exposed to secondary smoke from tobacco. Children should not be present during the use or possession of illegal drugs. Parents must ensure that children are not transported in a motor vehicle by any person under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Your children deserve to be safe and secure.
8) Parents should discuss, agree, and then mutually enforce appropriate limitations concerning the use of cell phones, computers, video games, television, and similar electronic devices or modes of communication. You should include what ratings are acceptable for television, movies, and video games, as well as appropriate curfews or bedtimes.
9) Do not criticize the other parent. Do not permit, encourage, or allow your children to criticize the other parent. The other parent's failures in life (financial, psychological, relational, physical, emotional limitations, or legal problems) should not be discussed with the children, unless it is first brought up by the child, and only then after a discussion is had with the other parent about the nature and extent of the disclosures to be made to the children.
10) All children should have a place for their belongings in a room separate from their parents, at each parents' location. The children should be allowed to take a reasonable amount of belongings with them to the other parent’s home and they should always be permitted to return with those items that were originally in his or her possession, unless a prior agreement is made with the other parent in advance. The child must be permitted to have photographs, correspondence, and personal items from both parents in their personal space.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Pusuant to Texas statute, the course must include information on the following issues:
(1) the emotional effects of divorce on parents;
(2) the emotional and behavioral reactions to divorce by young children and adolescents;
(3) parenting issues relating to the concerns and needs of children at different development stages;
(4) stress indicators in young children and adolescents;
(5) conflict management;
(6) family stabilization through development of a coparenting relationship;
(7) the financial responsibilities of parenting;
(8) family violence, spousal abuse, and child abuse and neglect; and
(9) the availability of community services and resources.
When one of the parties to a contested custody case is particularly difficult or is not doing what is best for the children, one option is to request that the Court order that party to take the course. You should be prepared for the likelihood that the Court will simply order both of the parties to take the course, when one party requests. If you have more questions about the Parent Education and Family Stabilization Court you should seek the advise of an experienced family law attorney.
Sunday, January 25, 2009
The Guardian Ad Litem usually has an advanced degree in either sociology or psychology and has special training in assisting children. The Guardian is usually appointed in termination or adoption cases, but, in special circumstances, also can be appointed in contested child custody cases.
In contested child custody cases, upon the appointment of either (or both) a Guardian / Attorney Ad Litem, the parties will lose some degree of control over what goes on at hearings and at trial. However, when a party is convinced that greater disclosure and investigation will be advantageous to his / her side (and, of course, the "best interests" of the child), then the appointment may be requested. These factors (and others) should be carefully weighed and it is recommended that you consult with an experienced family law attorney. Some of the things that the Guardian / Attorney Ad Litem can / may do are:
1) meet with and interview the child(ren);
2) interview the parents and other family members;
3) interview teachers, counselors, neighbors & others involved with the children;
4) interview other witnesss / third parties;
5) request that the Court order a home study and/or investigate the neighborhood;
6) collect evidence by serving subpoenas on schools and medical or psychological providers;
7) suggest (or request in Court) that the child (and/or parents) see a qualified psychiatrist, psychologist, or counselor for evaluation and/or treatment;
8) initiate (or merely attend) depositions in the case;
9) the filing of Motions concerning matters such as child support, visitation, conservatorship, temporary injunctive relief, health or psychological problems with the children, abuse or neglect of the children, or other matters that have not yet been brought to the attention of the Court;
10) the filing of a formal report to the Court;
11) initiate meetings between the Judge and the child(ren);
12) subpoena witness to hearings and trial;
13) attend hearings and trial; and/or
14) the making of formal or informal recommendations to the Court concerning custody, visitation, powers of conservatorship or other matters.
Sunday, January 18, 2009
On the other hand, the receiving spouse (Obligee) must report the payments as additional income on his or her Form 1040. By structuring the settlement in this manner, the Obligor could hang on to additional assets and reduce his or her tax liability at the same time. Conversely, the Obligee could obtain the security of payments over time and, assuming the Obligee is in a lower tax-bracket, reduce the overall tax liability of the marital estate.
Under IRS publication 504, the following types of payment are not considered to be spousal maintenance (alimony):
· Child support,
· Noncash property settlements,
· Payments that are your spouse's part of community income,
· Payments to keep up the payer's property, or
· Use of the payer's property.
In order to qualify to be alimony (or spousal maintenance), the settlement must be structured properly. The following seven requirements are mandatory:
1. The payments must be made as part of a written divorce agreement;
2. The payments must be made to your ex-spouse and usually not to third parties;
3. The divorce (or agreement incident to divorce) should not expressly disclaim that the payment is for alimony (spousal maintenance);
4. After the divorce, you and your spouse cannot live together in the same household and should not file the taxes jointly;
5. The payment must be in cash or equivalents (checks, money orders, cashier's checks) and not money from a property settlement;
6. The payment cannot be considered to be child support; and,
7. The obligation to make payments must cease if your ex dies.
If you have questions, you should consult an experienced divorce attorney or CPA.
***** Treasury Circular 230 Disclosure - To comply with requirements imposed by the Internal Revenue Service, to the extent this blog posting could be construed to include "tax advice," the information is not intended or written to be used, and cannot be used, by any person for the purpose of avoiding tax penalties that may be imposed on the person. This blog post is intended for informational purposes only, the taxpayer should seek advice based on the taxpayer's particular circumstances from an independent tax advisor.
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Although receiving a divorce petition is scary, there is usually time to act. As is explained in the document attached to the divorce petition called the “Citation,” (assuming this was included with the service papers) you generally will have until the “Monday next following the expiration of twenty days (at 10:00 in the morning)” within which to file an Answer. Sometimes you may have even longer (up to a 60 day waiting period) if the Original Petition was filed recently. This means that if an Answer is not filed before the deadline, your spouse can obtain a divorce and you will literally have no say in the terms. As a result, unless there is an immediate hearing scheduled (usually called a “Temporary Orders” hearing), you will have until Monday at 10:00 a.m. following twenty days from the day you were served within which to file an “Answer.” As a result, this is at least twenty days. This should be plenty of time for you to retain an experienced divorce attorney and get your Answer filed. You can certainly meet with your spouse to discuss the situation, provided you can do so without any possibility of threats or violence. However, you should not sign anything without first talking to a lawyer. If there is a Temporary Orders hearing scheduled, you should either retain an attorney well in advance of the hearing date or (or if you are unable to hire an attorney prior to the hearing date) at least go to the hearing and explain to the Judge that you have not yet had the opportunity to hire an attorney. Unless there is some emergency, the Judge will usually grant this request – called a “continuance.”